Identifying Limiting Beliefs
by: Dr. Tim Ong
Beliefs drive attitude and behaviour. Self limiting beliefs result in self sabotaging attitudes and behaviours that prevent us from getting what we want in life.
So the first step to self transformation and change must involve a change in our belief system. Without this change, nothing else you do will lead to a permanent change in your life.
However, we acquire most of our beliefs unconsciously. Once accepted and imprinted into our subconscious mind, it takes a conscious effort to remove and replace them with positve life enhancing beliefs. That is the reason why many gurus advocate conscious living.
There are many ways to identify our self limiting beliefs and all require a conscious effort to be mindful of our thoughts, speech and action.
Below is a list of the areas we need to focus on in identifying our self limiting beliefs, beginning with the most obvious problematic area and slowly working towards the more subtle area of the mind.
1. Recurring problems
2. Patterns of behaviour
3. Emotion
4. Speech
5. Thoughts
RECURRING PROBLEMS
Some people seem to have the unhealthy ability to get into relationships that are obviously going to lead to trouble. For example, there was this lady in her late 20's who seems to be getting into relationships with older married men over and over again.
As she consciously and mindfully looked into herself, she discovered not one but several beliefs that led to her behaviour. She believed...
..that all good men are married
..that mature men are more tender and caring
..that all the young men wanted from her is sex
She further realised that she identifies married men with her father whom she highly respected because he was very loving and caring towards her. He gave her a sense of being loved and protected.
She also realised that her need to feel protected from pain came from several earlier failed relationships with guys of similar age with her in her younger days. Those failed relationships not only gave her a sense of vulnerability but also lowered her self esteem.
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About The Author
Dr. Tim Ong is a medical doctor. He runs his own thriving family medicine practice. In his free time, he gives public talks, trains counsellors and speakers and volunteers in hospice work in his community. For more articles on beliefs, go to his website at http://mindscienceinfo.com or subscribe to his mailing list at http://bookoftransformation.com.
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